Sugarless Coating

I have become well aware that i lack the sweetness which usually accompanies words in conversations. My admiration for strong, bold distinctions in communication is quite unique, at least when my attempts to mesh with this society occur. Lets be honest - it is not well received.
Being misunderstood is common, and something i have accepted without bitterness. Yet the avoidance i see so clearly from peers is quite irritating - my perception shows they constantly refrain from entertaining reality and its accompanying truths. This is probably why i have used even sharper edges in dialogue: to catch the initial reactions displayed through civilization's expression. It is only then, within that moment, can i trust reality to be portrayed correctly.
Of course, I am not perfect; I often times spin myself in dizzying circles chasing the tail of validity. Still, I cannot comprehend how the frosting of sweetness can provide the pivotal key to successfully assimilate my associates. Is it sympathy they require of their compeers in order to truly revel in pure communication?
My only option has to be ignorance. I am ignorant of some link, some path I have not respected or analyzed in seeking out amends to this issue. Am I proud? not in the least - nor do i claim to be right, which is why I so desperately hunt for acumen.
I am uneasy in letting difficulties drift. There must be something I can do by altering myself to rectify this situation. I cannot accept this as a mere fact, nor will I resort to sugar coatings. Why cloud the mirror to reality with thick layers of "appropriateness"? My words may lack the satisfaction sugar can provide, but at least they are organic in their intentions.